During times of distress and disturbed mental peace, we often forget one simple thing – that the situation that we are facing is totally temporary. Nothing in life is permanent and so is this reason which has led to your stress.
Trust me, I have been through many such times – we all have and with today’s lifestyle we all probably will again and again! And here we are still standing tall in spite of these setbacks. There are many ways to kiss stress goodbye!
Staying calm during such times of stress is a sign of inner peace and strength. This skill to stay calm is not what we are born with, it can be cultivated by conscious thinking and practice and today I will be sharing with you all my 7 point calm checklist – that helps me during stressful situations.
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Did you know that exhaling just once helps reduce stress by upto 60%? Simply by exhaling once you win half the battle against stressful situations. This is why concentrating on your breathing and taking slow deep breaths is very very helpful. In fact anger and stress cause us to take sharp, faster and shallower breaths leading to more stress.
Don’t take it personally –
If your stress is caused by someone else’s negative reaction then i advice you to not take it to heart. No one knows what the other person is going through. Which is why we do not know if his or her reaction is exactly a response to our behaviour or a delayed reaction to something else that has happened in their lives. In case it is in response to something that you did wrong – apologise. An apology does not make you look smaller or bad. In fact it will help you keep peace and you deserve it! There is always another time to correct your mistakes. Mistakes only make us human.
Ask if you don’t understand –
So much of stress is caused due to misunderstandings. Do your best to clear out any misunderstandings.
Kill overthinking –
The biggest cause of stress is overthinking. It only makes problems seem a whole lot more bigger than they actually are. What’s more, one thought leads to many more thoughts causing you to get stuck in a never ending harmful thought cycle which adds to stress and is very very difficult to get out of. When you are stressed, stop your thoughts where they are by doing something that will divert your focus, activities that will get you out of this harmful mindset. Exercise is a great stress buster, not only does it lead to reducing stress it also helps keep in shape and get fit and healthy!
Cry it out if you must –
Keeping pent up feelings trapped within yourself is harmful for both your mental and physical health. It can lead to increased stress on your emotional being. Sometimes a good cry is a must (yes, even if you are a guy!) Crying is never a sign of weakness. We are humans, emotional beings who are wired to feel and express.
Seek help –
We are social beings who feel better when amidst people who care, even introverts. We all at some point of time, need people in our lives who make us feel good about life and about ourselves, especially when times are tough. If you are unable to beat stress on your own, never ever think twice about seeking help – both from friends as well as professionals! Seeking help is again never a sign of weakness. It is just like asking for help to do something that you cannot do on your own, alone.
Share the burden –
It is said that joys multiply on sharing and sorrows are subtracted when shared. Don’t keep wallowing in your stressful state alone. If it is something that is bothering and stressing you a lot, sharing it with someone close to you always helps.
This 7 point calm checklist is my way to beat stress. I have found it to be incredibly helpful. Even though it is a checklist, not all steps are meant to be followed in order. In fact sometimes you might feel amazing just at the 1st step, in which case it is great for you! Stress is not something that is easy to beat but with that being said, it is not impossible to beat either! Wishing you more power to beat stress with the following affirmation;
“When everything falls apart, I have an opportunity to rebuild.”
Try these tips the next time you feel stressed and also do let me know if you have any other tips that have helped you stay calm! If you liked this post, do let me know by hitting the ‘like’ button or by subscribing to my email list! 🙂