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During times of distress and disturbed mental peace, we often forget one simple thing – that the situation that we are facing is totally temporary. Nothing in life is permanent and so is this reason which has led to your stress.

Trust me, I have been through many such times – we all have and with today’s lifestyle we all probably will again and again! And here we are still standing tall in spite of these setbacks. There are many ways to kiss stress goodbye!

Staying calm during such times of stress is a sign of inner peace and strength. This skill to stay calm is not what we are born with, it can be cultivated by conscious thinking and practice and today I will be sharing with you all my 7 point calm checklist – that helps me during stressful situations.

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Breathe –
Did you know that exhaling just once helps reduce stress by upto 60%? Simply by exhaling once you win half the battle against stressful situations. This is why concentrating on your breathing and taking slow deep breaths is very very helpful. In fact anger and stress cause us to take sharp, faster and shallower breaths leading to more stress.

Don’t take it personally –
If your stress is caused by someone else’s negative reaction then i advice you to not take it to heart. No one knows what the other person is going through. Which is why we do not know if his or her reaction is exactly a response to our behaviour or a delayed reaction to something else that has happened in their lives. In case it is in response to something that you did wrong – apologise. An apology does not make you look smaller or bad. In fact it will help you keep peace and you deserve it! There is always another time to correct your mistakes. Mistakes only make us human.

Ask if you don’t understand –
So much of stress is caused due to misunderstandings. Do your best to clear out any misunderstandings.

Kill overthinking –
The biggest cause of stress is overthinking. It only makes problems seem a whole lot more bigger than they actually are. What’s more, one thought leads to many more thoughts causing you to get stuck in a never ending harmful thought cycle which adds to stress and is very very difficult to get out of. When you are stressed, stop your thoughts where they are by doing something that will divert your focus, activities that will get you out of this harmful mindset. Exercise is a great stress buster, not only does it lead to reducing stress it also helps keep in shape and get fit and healthy!

Cry it out if you must –
Keeping pent up feelings trapped within yourself is harmful for both your mental and physical health. It can lead to increased stress on your emotional being. Sometimes a good cry is a must (yes, even if you are a guy!) Crying is never a sign of weakness. We are humans, emotional beings who are wired to feel and express.

Seek help –
We are social beings who feel better when amidst people who care, even introverts. We all at some point of time, need people in our lives who make us feel good about life and about ourselves, especially when times are tough. If you are unable to beat stress on your own, never ever think twice about seeking help – both from friends as well as professionals! Seeking help is again never a sign of weakness. It is just like asking for help to do something that you cannot do on your own, alone.

Share the burden –
It is said that joys multiply on sharing and sorrows are subtracted when shared. Don’t keep wallowing in your stressful state alone. If it is something that is bothering and stressing you a lot, sharing it with someone close to you always helps.

This 7 point calm checklist is my way to beat stress. I have found it to be incredibly helpful. Even though it is a checklist, not all steps are meant to be followed in order. In fact sometimes you might feel amazing just at the 1st step, in which case it is great for you! Stress is not something that is easy to beat but with that being said, it is not impossible to beat either! Wishing you more power to beat stress with the following affirmation;
“When everything falls apart, I have an opportunity to rebuild.”

Try these tips the next time you feel stressed and also do let me know if you have any other tips that have helped you stay calm! If you liked this post, do let me know by hitting the ‘like’ button or by subscribing to my email list! 🙂

Hello everyone!

I started this blog in order to post content on happiness and how we can find it in today’s lifestyle. Happiness is a state of mind, a highly personal thing which should not depend on how your day was or how someone treated you.

With this blog, I wanted to reach out to anyone who needs to feel happier about life irrespective of circumstances. If my blog brings a small smile someone’s face, it is a huge satisfaction for me.

Which is why today’s day is so important to me – Today is 20th of March – The International Day of Happiness! Today is the perfect day to share my post on the above topic. Until more later….

So, what exactly is positivity? Positivity is described as the tendency to have and maintain a positive, optimistic attitude towards life. If only everyone looked at life through rose tinted glasses, by looking at each failure or a bad experience as an opportunity – The world would be such a better, brighter and a happier place!

The world truly needs happiness, especially now! Harvard has a Positive Psychology class attended by about 20% of its students which focuses on teaching students to enjoy life and it’s journey. What’s more, the UN has declared the International day of Happiness to be celebrated on the 20th of March every year! It was put into effect because of Jayme lllien, Adviser of the United Nations who felt that the pursuit to happiness should be recognized as a human right and an important human goal. The very purpose of this day has been to fulfill the vision of a happier world, one small step at a time. If positivity and happiness weren’t important why would the UN bring this day into effect?

In today’s world, newspapers, news channels, journalism, gossips, etc. all revolve around issues that invoke negative feelings. We all wake up to newspapers that highlight negativity almost (70% of the times) first thing in the morning. Isn’t that a depressing start to a day?

Nowadays we see so many people suffering from increased levels of stress resulting into physical ailments. Reports show that even today’s children have stress which makes positivity an even bigger necessity and a challenge than it has ever been. The levels of happiness and positivity are being measured worldwide, country wise, which proves the importance of positivity.

Positivity and happiness have unlimited potential and power within them, which are, if not all, a lot of what the world needs to dissolve away all such problems. Think over it, just one compliment, one motivational quote or even a single good moment we come across in an entire day makes us so happy. The positive vibes end up transforming our entire day magically into a great one!

Happiness and positivity and can make the world a better place as these emotions make people feel really good – from deep within, unlike negativity. They make us feel great about ourselves, gives us hope for a brighter tomorrow, lets us enjoy and fully live in this present moment, makes us realize what’s truly important in our lives and transfers this positivity to the people around us – our tribe, the people we all love!

If a single person gains such benefits from positivity, imagine the huge effect if will have if all of the world’s population does so – this effect will be multiplied a million fold, making this world a positively charged one!

Here are five simple things that we can do to embrace happiness and positivity on a personal level;

1. Practice gratitude for the things we already have. (Even one thing each day can suffice!)

2. Meditate and exercise (In order to calm and relax the soul and body respectively.)

3. Practice journaling in your emotions. (This will help you monitor your thoughts and feelings in a better way.)

4. Notice the little pleasures of life and feel the joy that these provide you. (The beauty of the rain, the butterflies, birds, the sky, a rainbow etc.)

5. Remind yourself that your only competition is you. (Don’t compare your life with anyone else’s, just try to be a better person than you were yesterday.)

Remember that ‘you’ are enough to start a revolution. Embrace positivity and share it so that the people around you will follow in. One step at a time is all that the world needs to take to make this world our happy home!

Wish you a positive life. Love, Pooja 🙂

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I guess the topic I have chosen to write on today is one to which everyone can relate to at some point of time in life or the other. Today I am listing down my favourite ways to beat stress and to unwind after a stressful day.

All of us, including me, juggle through so many activities on a day to day basis. You can feel this amplified if you live in a fast paced city or environment! Irrespective of whether you are a homemaker or a working individual, each one has to complete multiple tasks daily.

This can leave us completely anxious and feeling tensed even before the day comes to an end. The stress to get through so many tasks sucessfully can get to us & God forbid if things get tough! Situations like these end up piling more stress on our already stressed system and sends majority of our positivity flying out of the window.

Sometimes we end up holding up this stress for a long time, even after the stressful situation has long passed. This is unhealthy, both for the body as well as the mind. It is even bad for our relationships as we sometimes end up passing on our stress to them.

Holding up stress is something we all must avoid and learn to let go of. Understand that no human being is perfect and neither is life. We all learn through our mistakes and get better. Unfortunately it isn’t as easy as saying it is..

Here are 10 of my tried and tested ways to wind down after a stressful day which you can try out as well;

1. Listen to music – I still haven’t met someone who is not moved by the power of music. Listening to music has even been scientifically proven to alleviate stress and anxiety. ​Even a single personal favourite song can reduce stress and feelings of anxiety. So be sure to keep those headphones and a playlist handy! If you can, you can also perform a search online for songs that have been known to reduce anxiety and add them to your playlist! One such song is ‘Weightless’ by Marconi Union. It has been known to reduce anxiety by over 65 percent!

2. Repeat affirmations – Affirmations are great at reducing feelings of negation. I love them and have a big collection of them. I go through some of them every other day, irrespective of whether I am stressed or not, as reading them gives me joy and leaves me feeling happier and with a purpose. It has become a part of my weekly routine! Sharing one of my favourites here by Carly Marie from Redbubble;

3. Go through self help books or a chapter of your favourite book – Self help books are real gems. One of my favourite books which helps me wind down is ‘The Secret’ by Rhona Bryne. Just going through one chapter, or even a paragraph, makes me feel better and works wonders in shifting my thoughts. J. K. Rowling also makes my stress ‘magically’ disappear! One way you can use this tip is by having an ebook copy of your favourite book in your smartphone. Nothing better than having your favourite book handy with you!

4. Practice gratitude on a regular basis –Practicing gratitude makes you realise the things that are of ‘real’ importance in your life! Do this exercise every morning or at night, while going to bed and I am sure that you will see a positive change in yourself. Some people find it helpful if they list the things they are grateful for. If you are one of those, make a list of things that you feel are irreplaceable in your life, things or people whom you just cannot do without. Write those things down and make a list – make it as colourful and appealing as possible. Use handmade paper and make it attractive. Keep it with you and read through when you feel your stress building up!

5. Watch a funny TV show or any of your choice – Watching one’s favourite TV series, preferably funny ones, can help one wind down after an incredibly stressful day! I personally find it very helpful in shifting my thoughts which have built up from a stressful situation. It works to reduce stress in a very similar way as listening to music does.

6. Listen to a TED talk – I love TED talks as each one carries soo much of wisdom! They also have these talks categorised into playlists and have some for every mood. For eg. if you are feeling musical or when you are looking for some inspiration etc. If you haven’t listened to one already when stressed, I suggest you to do so soon! I am sure you will get hooked, just like me! 😊

7. Go for a walk – There is rarely something that a walk cannot clear up – especially issues of the mind! Walking for just ten minutes can help clear your mind’s stress and is beneficial for your physical health as well. The outdoors can work wonders and help get rid of your stress.

8. Catch up with close friends – Spending time with the people who always look out for the best when it comes to you, the ones who are part of ‘your tribe’, are the ones who you can approach if you are finding it difficult to deal with stress on your own. Sometimes even a simple call to a trusting and helpful friend can relieve your stress! Never be afraid to reach out for help when you need it – We are social beings and can sometimes simply need to be among our caring friends to feel better!

9. Practice deep breathing – Although it sounds like something we do everyday, deep breathing is a thing we rarely practice properly. When stressed, take some time to sit in a quiet place and breathe deeply and slowly. Focussing on your breath is known to help control your emotions. Notice how we tend to breath rapidly when angry or frustrated. It is the same with being calm, deep breathing forces our emotions to tip towards relaxing down.

10. Pick up a mini project related to your passion – Doing something you love is the best way to keep holding stress away. Maybe you had though of creating that lovely dreamcatcher and had put the project away because you didn’t have time for it; find time for it now. Start that painting you had wanted to create, even if you aren’t an artist! The possibilities are endless and the activities you are passionate about are so very doable! Talk about venting out your stress creatively! 😊

Each of these ways have helped me deal with stress effectively! If some of these are new to you, I suggest that you give them a try if ever a stressful situation does arise. After all, our mental wellbeing is responsible for the quality of our life. Through this blog, I wish to make everyone see life through rose tinted glasses! 💫

Wish you a positive day! Love, Pooja. 😊