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During times of distress and disturbed mental peace, we often forget one simple thing – that the situation that we are facing is totally temporary. Nothing in life is permanent and so is this reason which has led to your stress.

Trust me, I have been through many such times – we all have and with today’s lifestyle we all probably will again and again! And here we are still standing tall in spite of these setbacks. There are many ways to kiss stress goodbye!

Staying calm during such times of stress is a sign of inner peace and strength. This skill to stay calm is not what we are born with, it can be cultivated by conscious thinking and practice and today I will be sharing with you all my 7 point calm checklist – that helps me during stressful situations.

Checkist to help you stay calm, ward off stress and instill happiness and gratitude

Download this 7 step calm checklist freebie here!

Breathe –
Did you know that exhaling just once helps reduce stress by upto 60%? Simply by exhaling once you win half the battle against stressful situations. This is why concentrating on your breathing and taking slow deep breaths is very very helpful. In fact anger and stress cause us to take sharp, faster and shallower breaths leading to more stress.

Don’t take it personally –
If your stress is caused by someone else’s negative reaction then i advice you to not take it to heart. No one knows what the other person is going through. Which is why we do not know if his or her reaction is exactly a response to our behaviour or a delayed reaction to something else that has happened in their lives. In case it is in response to something that you did wrong – apologise. An apology does not make you look smaller or bad. In fact it will help you keep peace and you deserve it! There is always another time to correct your mistakes. Mistakes only make us human.

Ask if you don’t understand –
So much of stress is caused due to misunderstandings. Do your best to clear out any misunderstandings.

Kill overthinking –
The biggest cause of stress is overthinking. It only makes problems seem a whole lot more bigger than they actually are. What’s more, one thought leads to many more thoughts causing you to get stuck in a never ending harmful thought cycle which adds to stress and is very very difficult to get out of. When you are stressed, stop your thoughts where they are by doing something that will divert your focus, activities that will get you out of this harmful mindset. Exercise is a great stress buster, not only does it lead to reducing stress it also helps keep in shape and get fit and healthy!

Cry it out if you must –
Keeping pent up feelings trapped within yourself is harmful for both your mental and physical health. It can lead to increased stress on your emotional being. Sometimes a good cry is a must (yes, even if you are a guy!) Crying is never a sign of weakness. We are humans, emotional beings who are wired to feel and express.

Seek help –
We are social beings who feel better when amidst people who care, even introverts. We all at some point of time, need people in our lives who make us feel good about life and about ourselves, especially when times are tough. If you are unable to beat stress on your own, never ever think twice about seeking help – both from friends as well as professionals! Seeking help is again never a sign of weakness. It is just like asking for help to do something that you cannot do on your own, alone.

Share the burden –
It is said that joys multiply on sharing and sorrows are subtracted when shared. Don’t keep wallowing in your stressful state alone. If it is something that is bothering and stressing you a lot, sharing it with someone close to you always helps.

This 7 point calm checklist is my way to beat stress. I have found it to be incredibly helpful. Even though it is a checklist, not all steps are meant to be followed in order. In fact sometimes you might feel amazing just at the 1st step, in which case it is great for you! Stress is not something that is easy to beat but with that being said, it is not impossible to beat either! Wishing you more power to beat stress with the following affirmation;
“When everything falls apart, I have an opportunity to rebuild.”

Try these tips the next time you feel stressed and also do let me know if you have any other tips that have helped you stay calm! If you liked this post, do let me know by hitting the ‘like’ button or by subscribing to my email list! 🙂

Hello everyone!

It’s Saturday today. The awaited ‘weekend’ is finally here. 

So, why the awaited weekend, you might ask. Since I have started blogging, I have realised the true importance of living in the moment, being positively present in each moment. As much as I love practicing this, weekends are also another story altogether! 😊

To all of us, the weekend has a different meaning. Some people might spend this weekend working, while others might be going off to celebrate it with their friends and loved ones – the list of weekend activities is endless! Everyone loves them as they have something good in store for everyone!

Here’s why I love weekends!

Reason number 1.

Weekends mean two, long, blissful days at my favourite place – ‘Home’! I love to be at home. Weekends spent at home charge me up and fill me with happiness and motivation. It is my personal ‘me’ space. All I do is read a really good book, find out what to blog about, watch a little tv, organise a bit or get crafty with a unique project to get in the best of spirits! I can go on and on about the joys of being at home, but maybe in another post! 😉

Reason number 2.

Spending time with people I love and doing the things I love to is another great thing about weekends. Working throughout the week can leave very little time to spend with the people who really matter. My weekends are beautiful because I get to spend quality time with my family – even if it is just to go out together to buy the groceries! 😊 Also throughout the week, I can barely spend time with my two little rays of sunshine – my goldfish! Weekends are spent enjoying lovely moments with those two!

Reason number 3.

Getting some quality time gives one a chance to brush up on some skills as well as to learn something new. This can help one achieve future goals as well as find something entirely new to obsess about – as we cannot know about all the amazing things there are on the planet already, can we? It can light that fire within you to get better at your work as well! Weekends are amazing to learn chunks of new information at a pace we are comfortable with.

This weekend, I am going to do just a little bit of all these three! Some of my activities include;

  1. Looking up for ways that can make my blog better.
  2. Completing a milestone for a course in HTML and CSS I have recently taken up. Going through a few books on that subject too.
  3. Spending time with my adorable pets and family!
  4. Browsing through some blogs that always inspire me to do better! (Will let you in on that list one day!)
  5. Spending some interruption free ‘me’ time’.
  6. Reading up a book that I have completed halfway. (It does happen when one is busy!)
  7. Maybe plan a short outing with my family.

So, that is what I will be doing this weekend! What are your plans? Do share in the wonderful details!

Have a positive weekend. Love, Pooja. 😊

Hello everybody!

Just sharing some brief events of yesterday here today! Yesterday was definitely one lovely day out here in Mumbai – especially one worth sharing details about!

Monsoons have officially started here. It has been really beautiful to see sunlight filtering through the window one second only to be replaced by gray clouds in the next! This weather pattern will now officially continue well into mid-August.

This is precisely why yesterday night, it felt great to be tucked in into my cosy place after having spent most of the evening waddling through watery roads and streets on the way home from work! And I must add, this was definitely one of life’s little pleasures! 😊

Yesterday’s enchantment didn’t just end here! It also marked the arrival of a book from one of my favourite authors that I had prebooked earlier. It has been launched on the 29th of May and I am so excited to be having it with me, here, now! It was my special book Thursday! 😃

It’s titled, ‘Sita – Warrior of Mithila‘. 


Written by Amish, this book is book number 2 from the Ram Chandra Series. Amish is previously well known for his Shiva trilogy series which had a gripping storyline. 

These series tell us the story from the Era of Lord Ram. Book 1 of these series was released about more than a year ago which left all the readers on an interesting turn in it’s story almost begging for more! 

So yesterday night was spent in indulging in the things I love! A rainy day, a cosy reading nook and a lovely book! What else could a girl want? Especially one who loves to read! 😊

So that’s it regarding yesterday. Today has already arrived and it is meant to be another beautiful day, full of interesting surprises I am sure! Any particular event that made yesterday special for you? Do let me know. Let’s celebrate life’s little pleasures! 😊

Wish you a beautiful day. Love, Pooja!

Hello!

Hope you all are having a fun Sunday!

Today I wanted to share the above quote with you all.

We all know that life is not the same everyday. Change is the law of life. Sometimes, life blesses us with beautiful and unforgettable moments. But many a times, life knocks us down. It is during these hard and trying times of our life that we need to stay strong the most. 

I have always talked about being happy and about the importance of happiness in our lives. But is it really possible to stay happy all the time? 

Every emotion has a major role to play in our lives, even the negative ones. After all we are all humans and life without the presence of negative emotions isn’t possible. 

Dwelling over negative emotions isn’t healthy. It is always advisable to get over our negativity and hurtful experiences and start each day afresh! Here’s where happiness comes in.

Happiness is not something that you can buy. It isn’t a commodity which you will never run out of. In fact, happiness is a journey and to be truly happy, one requires an attitude to look at life through rose-tinted glasses. On this journey, you might lose the way temporarily. Just when you shift your thoughts to happiness, you might be taken over by sadness and pain again. But don’t stop choosing joy. Remember that you can always choose joy any second of your day!

All it takes is a change of perspective!

There is no person on this planet who is completely free of problems and negative emotions. Life is all about finely balancing the positives with the negatives. 

So from today, do the best you can to solve your problems and let them go. Stop paying extra attention to your problems and focus on the good things you have been blessed with in this lifetime!

Stay happy and be the reason for someone’s smile today!

 Have a positive day! Love, Pooja.

Hello readers,
Mondays mean fresh starts but for some of us they can trigger anxiety and the Monday blues!

Being anxious isn’t harmful, we all experience anxiety at some point in our lives. Getting over it and not letting it interfere with our daily routine and mood should be under our control.

When our anxiety gets a grip over us, it gives birth to feelings like fear and doubt. These very fears and doubts are known to be responsible for killing more dreams than failure ever can. Fear of failure arises only when one fixates over the end result and not over the journey towards success. 

But why fear failure? 

Failure is success in progress. – A. Einstein.

I haven’t failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that don’t work. – Thomas Edison.

This is what two of the greatest minds in history thought about failure! If they didn’t fear it, why should we?

To get your inner confidence shining brightly, I have brought you a mantra this Monday!

“Inhale confidence, exhale doubt!”

Simple, isn’t it? Say it to yourself today! Repeat it while you breathe to give you the confidence to do whatever you set your mind to! Remember that doubt will stop you every time you decide to take an action. Exhale and let it go.

Inhale confidence and do whatever it takes to achieve your task at hand. Believe that you can do it! Divide your work or activity into small, simpler and doable tasks and tackle each one of them, step by step. This practice will help you understand and complete any task in a better way. Writing down relevant points will also help you remember stuff better and let you think in an organized way. Try it, it works!

If you suffer from​ Monday blues, go through one of my previous articles and see if it helps you by clicking here. Till more tips follow! 😊

Go ahead and own this week with confidence.

Keep rocking and stay happy! Love, Pooja.

Hello everyone!

It feels good to finally find time to write and connect with you all again! This has been a very busy and eventful week​ for me. Most of you must have had a busy one too. Sure, I had some new experiences and learnt new stuff but we all do need some leisure time – time just for us!

I haven’t been able to write a lot or even do anything apart from work. I have missed my ‘me’ time as well which is why, this week, when I have been called to work on a Sunday as well, it really made my mood fly out of the window!

Working on a Sunday is just sad which is how I am feeling right now. It’s just like dark clouds have rushed and covered the bright and cheerful skies and washed away my idea of a happy weekend!

But that’s when I decided to think about this in another way. Being a writer for a blog on successful living, I simply had to, didn’t I? I decided to be grateful for the fact that I had a job. The world has many people in it who are restlessly seeking employment opportunities, I was once one of them too. So now, when I have one, shouldn’t​ I practice gratitude for it? 

This very incident has inspired me to write today’s blog post! Can you think about the many useful and essential things each of us already has? Have we expressed our gratitude for each and every one of them? Let’s​ just name a few which each one of us is blessed with;

  1. The air we breathe in – It’s free and our very life is dependent on it and we all have it around us! But do we thank air? I think we should at least appreciate its presence.
  2. Food – The world has too many people who go to sleep hungry every single day. Practice gratitude for the food you are served.
  3. Shelter – Be aware of the roof over your head. Be a little more grateful if you own it!
  4. Water – The clear liquid which has too many roles to count in our lives. Have access to it? You are blessed.
  5. Education – A very important journey that can take you places. Be grateful because not everyone gets the means to study.
  6. Employment – Something that gives you an opportunity to trade your skills for money which can buy you independence! Be thankful for your job!
  7. Electricity – We all use electronic devices and currently you all are reading this blog which is possible only because of the device in front of you! Not everyone has access to such devices and technology.
  8. Happy moments – Be it a small happy second to a large happy event, remember that there was someone in the world who wished to have a reason to smile today!
  9. Loving people – Surrounded by people who love you, wish the best for you and prioritize you? Be grateful for their presence in your life and give them a call today!
  10. A purpose to live life – Whether it is to be successful in your endeavors, to achieve peace of mind or to maintain a beautiful home, having a purpose to live life is a gift. Embrace it and be grateful for it.

        To name a few, all of us have these lovely things which add meaning to our lives. Be thankful for their presence and make a promise to your own self to be grateful for all that you receive in this life – Be it good or bad, as good things are often masked as bad ones! 

        Learn to live life and to observe it through rose-tinted glasses! 😊

        Wish you a happy weekend! Love, Pooja.

        Hello readers!

        It’s monday today! This day marks the start of another eventful week of work which is why getting worked up and anxious is but natural.

        Wishing to start every week on a happy note? Get rid of those monday blues now by reading through these quick fixes guaranteed to get you cheerful in no time!

        1. Figure out why you dread ‘the Mondays’ – Stop dreading Mondays right now! Realise that monday is just like any other day, which it actually is. Try to zero in on what exactly is making you dread Mondays. A little self introspection can help here. Is the dread related to not getting to office on time? Set your alarm a bit earlier than usual and see how it works for you. Is it because of your work? Try to get the issue resolved to get rid of the monday blues! Figuring the cause for your dread will help you solve this problem once and for all!
        2. Schedule a fun activity – Notice how we look forward to the fun activities we schedule? Who said that fun can be only had on weekends? If you have a relatively free monday evening coming up, schedule something fun to look forward to after work! Go shopping or watch a movie which you have been planning to watch for quite some time now. Meet up some friends for a quick get-together or binge on tv!
        3. Meditation or exercise – These are great at eliminating the feeling of dread and replacing them with positive feelings. Meditation and exercise boost your happiness levels and decrease stress. They increase the blood supply throughout the body and make you feel refreshed and energetic. These help boost your immune system, increase your strength as well as cut the flab! All in all, a great package to try out.
        4. Listen to music – Listen to good music, one with motivating and uplifting lyrics! Researchers have found out that musical beats affect out heartbeats and thereby affect our mood. This activity is also said to be a complete workout for the brain as it improves your memory, your listening skills, decreases pain, aids in sleep issues and so on. So what are you waiting got? Go grab those headphones now!
        5. Go walking –  There are a few things that cannot be cured by a simple walk. Walking is great for both physical and mental health. About 5 minutes are also enough for your body to show anti-anxiety effects!

          Try these methods to beat your monday blues in no time and do let me know if they worked for you! They sure do work for me! You don’t even need any expensive stuff to indulge in all these. Know something else that works even better for you? Let me know!

          Let’s have happier Mondays!

          Love, Pooja.